You read this question above, and before you could even understand what my response to it was, your brain already gave you a few reasons why you would do something like that. The reasons are numerous and will align with your own ideas. But let me give you a picture of what went on between my left and right ear:

Good Job

Good Education

Beautiful House

Loving wife & children

All of the above were checkmarked except for Good Education. There are valid reasons for this, but the fact is that the little box remained empty. Everything else, plus much more, was ticked, but not the Good Education box.

After my two-year stint in the military, I wanted to pursue a Bachelor’s degree in Communication. My late father, in his wisdom, threw a spectacular fit. So, I gave in and tried my hand at his will: a bachelor's in mechanical engineering.

Living someone else’s dream is never a good idea. The drive to start and complete something which you are not convinced about will no doubt fail. You will always feel you wasted your time.

I was older than the other students because of my two years in the military. During my first year, I started dating a girl who had been in my class since second grade. We have always been friends, but now it is different. She was approaching the end of her studies, and I was about halfway through mine when we got married. (Yes, another spectacular fit was thrown, as you can imagine.) I had obtained a bursary covering my study fees, and her small salary made up for the rest. She and a good friend worked at the Merensky Library of the University of Pretoria.

But then it all changed.

We were married for seven weeks when she and her friend returned home from the evening shift at the library. En route home in her friend’s little car, they crossed the main route out of the city, and another driver skipped the red traffic light. Both girls were instantly killed.

My midyear exams were due to start in two weeks, and I found myself to be a widower at the tender age of 22. I wrote a few exams, passed a few, and failed a few. Actually, I couldn’t care less. I completed a few courses by the end of that year and then sat down to take stock.

Both my parents were well-educated. My late father held a D.Sc. Mechanical Engineering degree, my late mother has a Bachelor’s in Social Work, plus a post-graduate diploma in Marriage Counselling from UNISA. My sister had, at the time, her Bachelor’s in Drama and Movement (today she has a PhD in Drama) and my brother a B.Sc. Electronic Engineering (Hons).

Little brother was the varsity dropout.

As you can imagine, my self-esteem was at a low point amongst my distinguished family members. I knew I could do better, but I would not ask my father for help. His help always came with a price. A price I was not willing to pay.

I somehow landed in the IT industry. And an industry it was already in 1987. I programmed for whoever needed programming. At some stage, I helped build a maintenance system for military aircraft and later, a system administering the local content of Mercedes-Benz products.

I started my own IT business in 1992 and sold it again in 2007. But although I was mildly successful in business, I always knew that something was missing. After the 2008 economic downturn, I landed a regular salaried job and considered returning to school. I was advised to go to UNISA, but that was a disaster, to say the least. UNISA’s administration and online systems were dysfunctional, and I gave up on them, losing a pretty penny in the process.

Then I learned about the University of the People (UoPeople) and joined their ranks in 2017 at the age of 53. Not only did it cost me less than UNISA, but I could also work and study quickly, and their system actually works. UoPeople probably has the best developed Moodle online platform in the world today.

While I am writing this, I am already 28 months into my studies, and at the current rate, I should finish a four-year bachelor’s degree in less than 3 ½ years.

Is it easy? Not at all. It requires hard work and dedication. Also, my family has to make some sacrifices too. But in the end, it will be worth it!

But are there any other deep-seated reasons why I started studying at 53? Perhaps moral convictions such as those listed by W.D. Ross (1877 – 1971)?

I told my dad I would study and though he is gone,
I have shown my fidelity to do it anyhow

I harmed myself for postponing it too long,
And now I catch up to restore to myself the wrong done

I am grateful for the opportunity given
And thank Shai Rashef who crossed my road

What I was given was covered up by layers of life
And to do justice to myself I have uncovered it all

To others I have always shown beneficence
It was now the time to show it to myself

I just had to improve myself
Just to become the best me I can ever be

For long I lived an injured life
My duty is now to live restored.